Let’s Talk Dirty

Matilda!?

Dear Advice Column,

This person is supposed to be a leader, but they’re unfair, trying to be scary and fake. Sometimes it feels like they only want to put down students instead of encouraging them, and it’s making students feel weird.

How do I deal with someone with power who acts this way? I don’t want to get in trouble for telling my parents, but I also don’t want to stay silent if things don’t feel good. What’s the best way for a student to handle a “Trunchbull?”

Sincerely,
A Scared Student

Dear Scared Student,

Matilda Wormwood, the brilliant and brave little girl from Roald Dahl’s classic story Matilda, faced one of the toughest school experiences and bullies in school history. Whether it was being shouted at, unfair punishments, and terrifying adult presence, Matilda held on to her morals and stayed sweet and fair through it all. It was her family at home, the teachers and Headteacher, using fear instead of respect and Matilda learned to navigate it all with the help of Miss. Honey. But what if Matilda were a student today? How could she deal with such an intimidating and unfair experience in a modern school setting, especially without the help of Miss. Honey and her few good friends?  

Here’s the advice I’d give her:

Speak Up (Safely and Smartly) I encourage you to use your voice. Matilda, talk to a trusted teacher, like Miss Honey, or even the school counselor, and explain the unfair treatment. Reporting bullying no matter if it comes from an adult, it is the first step to change. Remember to document the behavior. Instead of quietly accepting the injustice Matilda, write down what the “Trunchbull” does. Document the dates, times, and what was said or done. Documentation is powerful if you need to go to the school administration or higher.

Matilda, do you have good friends or loyal classmates and the support of an adult? Maybe you should build a stronger student network, banding together to show that the whole school, not just one child will stand behind you to support your cause. There’s strength in numbers. Use your collective voice for change. A modern-day Matilda might start a petition, write to the people assist with the problem, or even speak at a school board meeting to air your discomfort and fear. Its’s important Matilda not to let anyone crush your spirit. Today, students are reminded that self-worth isn’t determined by harsh authority figures or bullies. Matilda remember your kindness, brilliance, and creativity are YOUR greatest strengths and those matter more than fear.

In today’s schools, bullying whether from students, faculty, or staff, is not tolerated. The best advice Matilda is to stand tall, gather support, and use her voice to spark change. And, of course, keep believing in your own power.